Society doesn’t prepare you this

I feel like a nimwit.

And a fool.

Brainwashed, maybe? I’m not so sure, but it’s an interesting thing to think about. Will humanity look back on this point in time and laugh at how stupid we all were?

I didn’t really think through parenting. Let alone the dynamics of five very different children. Such is life. It seemed feasible and easy enough to do. Others were doing it, so why not us?

There are systems in place to support families. Childcare. Nursery. School.

And the systems in place help make it all possible. Unless you start to see the system isn’t what you need. You then kind of feel f*cked and almost like you have to start from scratch.

We live in a society where women can have it all. Apparently, we can easily juggle work with family needs. [Spoiler: we can’t, it’s not about having it all, it’s about creating something different.]

Sacrifices are part of the journey. Giving up things can feel hard. However, sometimes sacrifices are gifts. It can just take a while to realise it. Giving things time is not something humanity is good at these days. We demand instant resolutions.

I never considered all the things I would have to give up. All the struggles of trying to juggle kids, making a living and ensuring my own well-being is ok. In an attempt to make everything work, it’s so easy for us to put our own needs to the side.